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Getting To The Heart Of The Matter: What’s Holding You Back?

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Finally, I find myself with an extra hour to spare. There’s no better time to share life-changing information than when a blizzard’s unfolding outside your window.

After being referred to Napolean Hill’s Think And Grow Rich for about a dozen times in the last year, I made the move to finally purchase his book on my kindle. I try to read it everyday in the subway.

I want to share with you his list of the 30 Major Causes of Failure because if you’re not exactly where you want to be right now, the first step is to determine what is standing in your way to success. I’m obsessed with getting to the source of things so this is my little treat for me and for you if you need a little push.

The 30 Major Causes Of Failure Are:

  1. Unfavorable hereditary background (Such as a deficiency in brainpower)
  2. Lack of a Well-Defined Purpose In Life
  3. Lack of Ambition
  4. Insufficient Education
  5. Lack of Self-Discipline
  6. Ill Health
  7. Unfavorable Environmental Influences During Childhood
  8. Procrastination
  9. Lack of Persistence
  10. Negative Personality
  11. Lack of Controlled Sexual Urge
  12. Uncontrolled Desire For ‘Something For Nothing’ (little effort-big returns)
  13. Lack of Well-Defined Power of Decision
  14. One or More of the Six Basic Fears 
  15. Wrong Selection of a Mate in Marriage
  16. Over-Caution
  17. Wrong Selection of Associates in Business
  18. Superstition and Prejudice
  19. Wrong Selection of a Vocation
  20. Lack of Concentration of Effort
  21. The Habit of Indiscriminate Spending 
  22. Lack of Enthusiasm
  23. Intolerance 
  24. Intemperance 
  25. Inability to Cooperate With Others
  26. Lack of Possession of Power Acquired Through Self-Effort
  27. Intentional Dishonesty
  28. Egotism and Vanity
  29. Guessing Instead of Thinking 
  30. Lack of Capital

So which of these are standing between you and your success?

I determined that eight of the above tend to stand in my way. Identifying the causes that keep us in a rut is the first step, then the most important things to do is be PERSISTENT and develop a PLAN backed by ACTION!

“Good things come to those who ACT!”

-Nicole

 

Birthdays And Insights

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So my 26th birthday just passed this Monday on December 1st and along with it came many different emotions. I think this tends to happen around “important” dates and holidays when people’s expectations tend to run higher than any other time of the year.

I say this because this Thanksgiving and 26th birthday is the FIRST time I wasn’t surrounded by a single family member or close friends.

For those of you who have been through this, you understand how unsettling it can feel. I’m new to this and this is why in the past I never imagined I’d move away from family. The funny thing is, my brother Michael is going through the same thing for the first time too. Amazing, similar experiences with completely different circumstances.

Despite this shock I joyfully express my gratitude to the people who have made their way into my crazy life in NYC and have welcomed me with open arms.

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I send a “thank you” to Roxy’s family for having me in the defining month of September and inviting me over for Thanksgiving. And I also send a “warm thank you” to Aleksandra, Giovanna, Jinna and Wendy for being good friends to me in the short time I’ve known them. I would be eccstatic to share another Peruvian feast with you again and again.

After my birthday dinner, me and a friend decided to go out until very late and ended up having a foolish scuffle. The next morning, I was left with a terrible hangover, aching body and some post-birthday blues that were facilitated by the hangover. The foolish scuffle caused me to feel negative emotions and turn introspective.

I’m going to commit to getting to sleep earlier and to stop drinking alcohol because I realized that I HATE the resulting hangover/blues much more than I love the short-lived high of being buzzed.

What’s worse, these negative habits grossly diminish productivity. There’s not a chance I’m going to work out, eat healthy or be alert after those late nights.

I’m afraid this is going to alienate me a little bit because people here generally like to drink outrageous amounts of alcohol and stay out until the sun rises. Either way, I have to do what’s best for me and am confident that I will find people that think and act similarly.

One of the biggest reasons for this resolution is my reading of Jeff Olson’s The Slight Edge and the idea that every single little decision you make is either working FOR you or AGAINST you.

An example could be every time you decide to eat that cheeseburger instead of a nutritious meal, hit the snooze button and skip your early workout, or worse – have a long night and lose half of the next day. Basically, it resembles the “compounding” of good or bad choices that end up resulting in your failing or improving health, relationships and finances.

There couldn’t be a better book to read for my current situation than the Slight Edge. The reason why this concept is so treasured by me and all of Jeff’s readers is the simplicity of it all.

“Successful people do what unsuccessful people are not willing to do.”

The 95% majority of people that are struggling are motivated by quick results and instant gratification. The successful 5% are those who use the slight edge to take action with a vision of where they will be and a confidence that their consistent good decisions will make a difference.

So remember, every decision you make counts. Think twice before you decide to skip that seminar, neglect to call your friend who you haven’t talked to in a while, or get that extra drink.

You’re either on your way down or on your way up, I know I’m on my way up.

-Nicole