This post has literally been cooking in my head for weeks and I’m thrilled to finally post it here for all of you to see! On any given day, I find myself sharing New York City’s streets and trains with thousands of people where I make observations that constantly inspire me. I thought of this post when I was commuting to work.
“There is truth in the principle that novelty and challenge bring happiness.”
I first read this in Gretchen Rubin’s Bestseller “The Happiness Project” and I now realize how utterly true it’s been so far..although the novelty of my move is not over yet.
The cause behind this boost in happiness comes from the huge boost in self-esteem and accomplishment that comes from pushing through and conquering this feat that is totally new.
Of course people avoid novelty and challenge because it often means delayed happiness.
“You have to pass that stressful period of feeling stupid, vulnerable, frustrated, confused, insecure (which I felt A LOT of while adjusting to NYC)…and then you conquer the challenge. That’s what makes coming out on top after the struggle so much sweeter. The victory is delicious…even the signs of victory are delicious.”
This can apply to starting a blog with no tech experience, learning a new language OR moving to a brand new city without having done so in the past.
I get asked on a daily basis why I moved from California to New York City. I still struggle to answer WHY I moved here but I can tell you what Living in New York City has taught me:
- to be more fearless
- to be more comfortable in my skin
- to give less f@*ks!
- to give more f#%ks…about what really matters
- to laugh more (because I give less f@ks)
- to be more confident in myself (because god knows I wasn’t going to come out unchanged)
- to embrace my femininity
- to get out of my shell and have a diverse group of friends
- to be smarter and quick on my feet
- to be tenacious
- to go for it
- to experience and appreciate the seasons (This inspired one of my best art pieces!)
- to appreciate the little bit of sunlight offered by New York’s mean winter
- to jump for joy at the tiniest sign of Spring approaching
- to be in the moment and appreciate a random show in the station, the train or the street
- to pick up strange hobbies (like boot camp fitness)
- to be extremely resourceful (I have to be!)
- more tech savvy (I use apps that I didn’t know of before I moved here to make life easier and even find freelance work using Fiverr and Taskrabbit.
- to be more efficient with my time and priorities
- to be ambitious and say YES to opportunity (Thanks to the inspiring people I have around me like Jinna Yang, Priscilla Rodgers and the online communities I follow)
- to value my smartphone like it’s my lifeblood (because I couldn’t navigate the city without it if my life depended on it)
- to read more books (thanks subway)
- to BREATHE
I guess it’s ironic that the fast paced ferocity of New York City has taught me to BREATHE and more effectively manage my stress levels. It really is out of necessity because I would’ve had a heart attack a long time ago if I didn’t.
This move has redefined my impossible and has made me rediscover my belief in myself. I was half the woman I am Today before I left the safety of my comfort zone in California.
So that’s why I make the case for giving a new city a try if you haven’t before. It will redefine your impossible, redefine your idea of yourself and expand your mind.
Get out there!