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Emerging From Hiding

My mood is a lot sunnier now than it was last week. I have to attribute that to the compounding of negative events that unfolded in the previous weeks. First, getting sick is a huge DOWNER. Second, finding oneself having to look for a new job again SUCKS! You put these together and you get pressure, helplessness, and anxiety.

Fortunately I did the right thing by trying to get as much done as possible through the computer applying for jobs and then reading a book directed at changing destructive thought patterns. I knew I had to change something inside of me because I tend to “coincidentally” get sick when there’s a big change happening.

It HAD to stop! I refuse to go through something as frustrating as that again. I want to be strong and equipped to rise up when adversity hits again. Many NY veterans have told me that I’ll probably get sick here more often than in California but I refuse! I won’t let it happen.

I know that my anger, denial and hesitance to move on (in regards to my job situation) eventually led to my diminished immunity and my nasty cold. Combining the physical disciplines of increasing sun exposure, movement, and interpersonal interaction with the mental disciplines of daily positive affirmations, reading and effective goal setting helped me to heal and lighten up my mood.

Phew! I’m glad to be out of the gloom. I’m actually happy it’s going to SNOW on Wednesday! I also have a few interviews tomorrow so things are starting to look up. I’ll give you an update afterwards.

Stay tuned..

-Nicole

Dealing With Seasonal Changes

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Wow I’m so new to this drop in sunlight and temperature! In the last couple of weeks I have been experiencing symptoms of Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). 

Seasonal Affective Disorder is the winter blues that usually occur in late autumn/early winter causing depression, irritability, unhappiness or low energy attributed to less sun exposure.

I am definitely feeling funkier than usual and I think the huge decrease in my outdoor activities is the culprit. The fact that I’ve been sick and not spending much time with people is another factor. It has come to my attention that I require lots of physical activity, sun exposure and regular interaction with people to feel happy.

I have to take a proactive approach to address this trend so I can be effective in my job search and to experience more joy. The truth is that EVERYTHING works out in our favor when we have a good attitude and project happiness onto people and our surroundings.

It’s tough to make get positive results if you’re not feeling very optimistic to begin with but, alas, that’s why you have to accept the feeling and then move on. You have to push through and “act the way you wanna feel.” I borrowed that last quote from the book I’ve been enjoying titled The Happiness Project by Getchen Rubin.

I chose to read The Happiness Project because Gretchen takes on a series of actionable steps to bring more satisfaction to all areas of her life: Vitality, Marriage, Work, Parenthood, Leisure, Friendship, Money, Spirituality, Knowledge, Mindfulness and Attitude. I appreciate the approach because it resembles cognitive behavioral therapy which, in my eyes, gets faster results than trying to change the way one thinks.

Washington Square Park

Washington Square Park

As for now, I’m going to do a few things to feel better:

  1. Apply to jobs on Craigslist and Sittercity.com
  2. Reach out to friends here and from home to feel more connected
  3. Go for a walk when the sun’s out
  4. Find a yoga or dance class to attend when I’m able
  5. Download some music on my phone to make it more fun to work out in the gym
  6. Attend some art meetups when I’m able

I think that’s enough for now, stay warm!

-Nicole

 

 

Embrace the Struggle

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Phew! It’s been a rough last couple of days. I’ve been fighting a cold and sore throat for over a week (while proving myself at work), riding emotional roller coasters and have just gotten out of the relationship that inspired me to move to the other side of the country. Although it can be quite terrifying, I am not discouraged. With every bump in the road and unsettling thought that I experience, I feel myself building a tougher skin. This is good because I wanted to build it before but couldn’t in the unchallenging place I used to live in. I even tried to prepare myself through taking courses and reading helpful books..nothing replaces THE REAL THING.

There is a good thing that came out of me living and working in an unfulfilling place-reading and learning A LOT so I can apply it now when all my wits are being put to the test. Here is a great quote that I took from Oprah’s inspiring interview at Standford (here’s the link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6DlrqeWrczs).

“There are NO mistakes, there really aren’t any. Because you have a supreme destiny. When you’re in your little mind, in your little personality mind where you’re not centered and you don’t really know who you are and that you come from something bigger and we are all the same..when you don’t know that, you get all flustered and stressed all the time wanting something to be what it isn’t. There’s a supreme moment and destiny. The losses are there to wake you up. Your life is bigger than any sole experience. RELAX, it really is gonna be okay. When you get steered off course and overwhelmed just ask yourself “what is the NEXT right move?” Everything is leading to your destiny and calling”

-Oprah Winfrey

I know it was long but wasn’t it great!? I read that anytime I find myself regretting my big and little decisions (such as moving here). I must part from writing as I need to continue my apartment search and prepare for my long workday tomorrow. Farewell for now.

Stay tuned..

-Nicole