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Victory! Posing  at Central Park

Victory! Posing at Central Park

1) Sublet “Check”

2) Job “Check!”

3) Permanent place “In Progress”

HOORAY! I got a job last week after only a few days of aggressively looking for them. Since I moved to Sheepshead Bay on September 3rd I spent a big chunk of time on preparation rather than action. This includes research on what I wanted and hundreds of edits to my resume. I suppose that’s okay because it relates to the old saying:

“It’s better to take your time and aim at what you want than to shoot in every direction.”

So I got a job as a server at this “Eclectic Mediterranean” Restaurant in Tribeca last week where I totally clicked with the staff, the space, and the food. It might sound “average” to certain people but this is the first time I’ve felt happy at a job for a long time, since I can remember. I mean, these people know how to work hard and have a blast with eachother. Who can say they had an “Office Space Moment” during the monthly team meeting where everyone helped destroy the stubborn office printer!? Ya that happened this Saturday. Anyway, now that I have a source of income I can focus on the search for a place closer to town AND work!

I’m going to officially start my search tomorrow and my place will preferably be in Manhattan so I don’t have to put in so much commute time. Although Sheepshead Bay was a beautiful and good place to start, the one-hour commute to The City each way is painful..and can I mention-unreliable? It must be a coincidence but the Q train I take has been held up 3 times already in the past week! I have to be honest and say that I’m not adjusted to this new dependence on public transportation. In fact, it still deeply frustrates me.

“But whatcha gonna do? Learn and learn some more”

-Nicole

Potential

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Potential – A latent excellence or ability that may or may not be developed (Dictionary.com definition)

Oh that word has haunted and picked at me for over a decade now. No one I can think of has been easy on me, these include: teachers, coaches, art teachers, professors, friends, bosses, and family members. Although they thought they were “helping” me by constantly pushing me to deliver, their “help” took more of an accusatory form rather than a supportive form. It wasn’t empowering at all. Who likes to constantly be told:


“What are you doing?!”

“You can do SO much better, I know what you’re capable of”

“You’re not even delivering on HALF of your potential”

“You’re not doing well right now but I see your potential”

“I can’t wait to see the day you reach your potential”


It’s not bad to be told any of this, it might be just what you needed to hear to stop living in mediocrity. But there is a crushing guilt that comes with consistently (being told that you are) living beneath yourself without a solution or a how being presented.

Me: “Okay thanks for telling me I’m under-delivering now how do I over-deliver?” or “What the f* am I supposed to do now?”

That’s the problem with people “doing you the favor” of telling you that you can do better, they don’t want to help in solving the problem. In reference to my last post, “Foreign to the Comfort Zone,” it’s no wonder I’ve always pushed myself to constantly grow and feel uncomfortable. I was trying to figure out how to be my best self and reach that goddamned potential!

In search of that answer I have read many life-changing books that other successful people have read:

  • “How to Awaken the Giant Within” by Tony Robbins
  • “How to Make Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie
  • “The Slight Edge” by Jeff Olson
  • “Train Your Brain for Success” by Roger Seip
  • A little bit of “Never Eat Alone” by Keith Ferazzi
  • “The ABCs of Peak Performers” by Bill Poett

I have taken away with me some important concepts I learned in these books and was still running into the same problems I was struggling with before. Finally I figured it out in a moment of deep reflection at a coffee shop on a Saturday morning. I will discuss this in the following post.

Thanks for reading lovely people!

-Nicole