Potential – A latent excellence or ability that may or may not be developed (Dictionary.com definition)
Oh that word has haunted and picked at me for over a decade now. No one I can think of has been easy on me, these include: teachers, coaches, art teachers, professors, friends, bosses, and family members. Although they thought they were “helping” me by constantly pushing me to deliver, their “help” took more of an accusatory form rather than a supportive form. It wasn’t empowering at all. Who likes to constantly be told:
“What are you doing?!”
“You can do SO much better, I know what you’re capable of”
“You’re not even delivering on HALF of your potential”
“You’re not doing well right now but I see your potential”
“I can’t wait to see the day you reach your potential”
It’s not bad to be told any of this, it might be just what you needed to hear to stop living in mediocrity. But there is a crushing guilt that comes with consistently (being told that you are) living beneath yourself without a solution or a how being presented.
Me: “Okay thanks for telling me I’m under-delivering now how do I over-deliver?” or “What the f* am I supposed to do now?”
That’s the problem with people “doing you the favor” of telling you that you can do better, they don’t want to help in solving the problem. In reference to my last post, “Foreign to the Comfort Zone,” it’s no wonder I’ve always pushed myself to constantly grow and feel uncomfortable. I was trying to figure out how to be my best self and reach that goddamned potential!
In search of that answer I have read many life-changing books that other successful people have read:
- “How to Awaken the Giant Within” by Tony Robbins
- “How to Make Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie
- “The Slight Edge” by Jeff Olson
- “Train Your Brain for Success” by Roger Seip
- A little bit of “Never Eat Alone” by Keith Ferazzi
- “The ABCs of Peak Performers” by Bill Poett
I have taken away with me some important concepts I learned in these books and was still running into the same problems I was struggling with before. Finally I figured it out in a moment of deep reflection at a coffee shop on a Saturday morning. I will discuss this in the following post.
Thanks for reading lovely people!