In his book, Shad Helmstetter talks about the importance of the things we say to ourselves and the directions we give our subconscious, our self-talk. Through studies and personal observation, he determines that people can’t make any lasting positive changes in their lives without changing their mental programming that has gotten them there in the first place.
This is evident in the fact that there are countless self-help books that hold the “keys to success” and yet, have caused change in only a handful of the tens-of-thousands of individuals who have read them. These best selling success solutions would work for a time and then the average person would revert to their old ways.
This is because: The old programming controls the habits, so the old habits take over once again.
“As much as 75% of everything we think is negative, counterproductive, and works against us. And medical researchers say that 75% of all illnesses are self-induced.”
Can you believe that?! We can literally talk and think ourselves into failure and illness. It’s not all our faults, we have all heard around 100,000 “NO’S” up until the age of 18. It’s obvious that we have received a staggering amount of programming from the day we are born. We have been told how we look, what we’re good at, what we’re not good at, and what we can’t do (40). Our computer is pre-programmed to hold us back because of self-doubts and bad habits we have formed without our knowing.
I’m sure you’ve heard about the importance of visualization and the picture you have of yourself. Helmstetter says that we can “override our old programming and replace it with a specific word-for-word new program”(26). And since the subconcious mind believes anything you tell it you can use that to your advantage. It’s as simple as changing this common phrase:
“I’m terrible with remembering names”
to “I’m great with remembering names. My mind is sharp, alert, and excellent at retaining information.”
I know it sounds nutty if it’s not true yet but it makes no difference whether you believe it or not. Your brain simply believes what you tell it most. “What you tell it about you, it will create” (26).
Just think about it, how do you expect yourself to be graceful if you have been telling yourself for the past 20 years that you’re clumsy?! That wouldn’t make sense. Oftentimes, it takes someone outside of ourselves to change our self-perception. Seriously! When I had a banker tell me that I’m “financially literate and I GET the financial picture” something awesome shifted in me.
You start to focus on those encouraging words and look for evidence to support it. Before you know it, you feel better about your ability in XYZ and become more competent as a result.
A really strong tool to help is recording yourself using the self-talk that the Author provides in his later chapters related to different areas in your life. According to him, if you listen to these positive self-talk recordings daily (even when you’re busy doing other things). you will see a change in as little as a week.
* Just yesterday I started using his scripts for motivation, greatness, solving problems, money, and self-esteem and I felt very uplifted.
Remember: Whatever thoughts you have programmed into yourself or have allowed others to program into you are affecting, directing, or controlling everything about you…so why not take in your own hands and choose what is in your mental program?
(I’ll keep you posted on my progress with self-talk in the days to come)