Category Archives: My Life in New York City

Embrace the Struggle

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Phew! It’s been a rough last couple of days. I’ve been fighting a cold and sore throat for over a week (while proving myself at work), riding emotional roller coasters and have just gotten out of the relationship that inspired me to move to the other side of the country. Although it can be quite terrifying, I am not discouraged. With every bump in the road and unsettling thought that I experience, I feel myself building a tougher skin. This is good because I wanted to build it before but couldn’t in the unchallenging place I used to live in. I even tried to prepare myself through taking courses and reading helpful books..nothing replaces THE REAL THING.

There is a good thing that came out of me living and working in an unfulfilling place-reading and learning A LOT so I can apply it now when all my wits are being put to the test. Here is a great quote that I took from Oprah’s inspiring interview at Standford (here’s the link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6DlrqeWrczs).

“There are NO mistakes, there really aren’t any. Because you have a supreme destiny. When you’re in your little mind, in your little personality mind where you’re not centered and you don’t really know who you are and that you come from something bigger and we are all the same..when you don’t know that, you get all flustered and stressed all the time wanting something to be what it isn’t. There’s a supreme moment and destiny. The losses are there to wake you up. Your life is bigger than any sole experience. RELAX, it really is gonna be okay. When you get steered off course and overwhelmed just ask yourself “what is the NEXT right move?” Everything is leading to your destiny and calling”

-Oprah Winfrey

I know it was long but wasn’t it great!? I read that anytime I find myself regretting my big and little decisions (such as moving here). I must part from writing as I need to continue my apartment search and prepare for my long workday tomorrow. Farewell for now.

Stay tuned..

-Nicole

Need An Update?

Victory! Posing  at Central Park

Victory! Posing at Central Park

1) Sublet “Check”

2) Job “Check!”

3) Permanent place “In Progress”

HOORAY! I got a job last week after only a few days of aggressively looking for them. Since I moved to Sheepshead Bay on September 3rd I spent a big chunk of time on preparation rather than action. This includes research on what I wanted and hundreds of edits to my resume. I suppose that’s okay because it relates to the old saying:

“It’s better to take your time and aim at what you want than to shoot in every direction.”

So I got a job as a server at this “Eclectic Mediterranean” Restaurant in Tribeca last week where I totally clicked with the staff, the space, and the food. It might sound “average” to certain people but this is the first time I’ve felt happy at a job for a long time, since I can remember. I mean, these people know how to work hard and have a blast with eachother. Who can say they had an “Office Space Moment” during the monthly team meeting where everyone helped destroy the stubborn office printer!? Ya that happened this Saturday. Anyway, now that I have a source of income I can focus on the search for a place closer to town AND work!

I’m going to officially start my search tomorrow and my place will preferably be in Manhattan so I don’t have to put in so much commute time. Although Sheepshead Bay was a beautiful and good place to start, the one-hour commute to The City each way is painful..and can I mention-unreliable? It must be a coincidence but the Q train I take has been held up 3 times already in the past week! I have to be honest and say that I’m not adjusted to this new dependence on public transportation. In fact, it still deeply frustrates me.

“But whatcha gonna do? Learn and learn some more”

-Nicole

Catching up

Swans in Sheepshead Bay

Swans in Sheepshead Bay

I’m back! I’m guessing you’re wondering what happened to me and the place I was supposed to have set up before my surprise trip to New Orleans.. Long story short, I missed my last chance to snag an option that was relatively cheap AND close to Manhattan and had to rely on my backup sublet which turned out to be the best option I had!

Let me explain: lightening-quick decision making is rewarded here in New York, there’s just too many other people scrambling for the same things and probably expecting less than you are. I was amazed by how quick people were to throw money down. Even after being the 1st pick to see the place in Sunset Park, the 15 minutes I took to “think about it” resulted in me losing the place to someone who had literally come in five minutes after me and offered the cash! This appeared to be a loss but ended up being a blessing since this alternate place turned out to be beautiful and the people I’m sharing the space with are lovely. I acquired this option through my boyfriend’s college friend who lives in Sheepshead Bay.

Just yesterday afternoon I managed to drag all my suitcases down 4 excruciating flights of stairs to a cab (with help from friendly New Yorkers of course) from East Village to the southernmost part of Brooklyn. I received a warm welcome by Roxy and her family who all turned out to be friendly creative types. After conversing with them for a while I went to explore the bay where I witnessed the prettiest sky I have seen since I left California. These were all good signs for what’s to come, I am certain of it.

1) Sublet “Check”

2) Job “In progress”

3) Permanent place “On hold”

Alright not too bad, 1 out of 3 major tasks completed. I’m putting the pedal to medal now because I’m determined to get my life stabilized. Onward and up!

-Nicole

 

Getting And Being Here

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So I apologize for not keeping you up-to-date but it’s been one hell of a ride. I’m going to warn you that there might be some space between my posts because I have an incredible amount of things to get sorted out now that I’m in New York, New York. So it hasn’t been very pretty or dreamy yet, you know “Champions are made in secret.”

One thing that’s been quite startling is that I don’t have any similar past experiences that I can refer to so I know what to expect or how to react. I’ve lived in many places temporarily but have not actually moved outside the state or country before. This is my first time experiencing any form of homesickness. In the past couple weeks I have felt emotional and bodily sensations that I have never felt before. I couldn’t really explain why my stomach was twisting, why I was losing my breath or why I would randomly feel lightheaded like I was going to faint.

It’s been kind of embarrassing how me and my body were (and continued) to react to everything. The good news is that a lot of that weight has been lifted the moment I touched New York soil because the anticipation of what was to come was partly over.

I’ve been here for 5 days and oh man is there so much to learn and do. My most important goal for the time being is to have a month-long room sublet set up for me when I come back from an unplanned trip to New Orleans. That means I only have three more days to find a decent place, meet the tenants and pay upfront! This isn’t as easy as it sounds as the City and its outer boroughs vary greatly from each other and within in terms of safety, proximity to transportation, price, and green space.

Until then…wish me luck.

-Nicole

 

Change Is On Its Way!

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Oh goodness! So remember when I said I needed a big sweeping change and that I was leaving perfect SoCal to somewhere new? Well I’m not only leaving SoCal, I’m picking up and leaving the state altogether to go to NYC! How’s that for change!?

I’ve taken my time posting on my blog because I had to mentally process what was happening. Humans are funny in the way that we don’t “get” what’s happening in the moment.

So that’s it, I’m selling the few possessions I can squeeze cash out of and going into the unknown. I’ve been in the Big City before and have a pretty good idea of what I’m up against. I already heard of all the obstacles that I’ll come across: high rents, expensive lifestyle, traffic, “rude New Yorkers,” endless competition for jobs, cutthroat atmosphere, long working hours, too many people, possible failure and any other negatives that you can think of. This is what I have to say to that: “I know, I’m going anyway.”

Cheers to feeling the fear and pushing through. No one ever got anywhere staying in an un-challenging environment and not putting in the extra effort.

I won’t lie, I’m scared and worried. Either way, the strong, determined daredevil in me is pleading me to do this. This part of me has been laying dormant for a while, when I didn’t have a lick of confidence left in me. Now, after getting fed up with how things were going and getting some guidance in the process, I’m ready for this! I have to thank some of the friends I’ve been hanging out with that told me to do something about my discontentment. They ignored all my excuses and said that I really needed to change my environment (too much of the same thing).

Luckily, I also started to ignore my excuses for why I shouldn’t move to San Francisco or NYC. So here I am with a flight ticket scheduled to depart 6 days from now!

Stay tuned..

-Nicole