So my 26th birthday just passed this Monday on December 1st and along with it came many different emotions. I think this tends to happen around “important” dates and holidays when people’s expectations tend to run higher than any other time of the year.
I say this because this Thanksgiving and 26th birthday is the FIRST time I wasn’t surrounded by a single family member or close friends.
For those of you who have been through this, you understand how unsettling it can feel. I’m new to this and this is why in the past I never imagined I’d move away from family. The funny thing is, my brother Michael is going through the same thing for the first time too. Amazing, similar experiences with completely different circumstances.
Despite this shock I joyfully express my gratitude to the people who have made their way into my crazy life in NYC and have welcomed me with open arms.
I send a “thank you” to Roxy’s family for having me in the defining month of September and inviting me over for Thanksgiving. And I also send a “warm thank you” to Aleksandra, Giovanna, Jinna and Wendy for being good friends to me in the short time I’ve known them. I would be eccstatic to share another Peruvian feast with you again and again.
After my birthday dinner, me and a friend decided to go out until very late and ended up having a foolish scuffle. The next morning, I was left with a terrible hangover, aching body and some post-birthday blues that were facilitated by the hangover. The foolish scuffle caused me to feel negative emotions and turn introspective.
I’m going to commit to getting to sleep earlier and to stop drinking alcohol because I realized that I HATE the resulting hangover/blues much more than I love the short-lived high of being buzzed.
What’s worse, these negative habits grossly diminish productivity. There’s not a chance I’m going to work out, eat healthy or be alert after those late nights.
I’m afraid this is going to alienate me a little bit because people here generally like to drink outrageous amounts of alcohol and stay out until the sun rises. Either way, I have to do what’s best for me and am confident that I will find people that think and act similarly.
One of the biggest reasons for this resolution is my reading of Jeff Olson’s The Slight Edge and the idea that every single little decision you make is either working FOR you or AGAINST you.
An example could be every time you decide to eat that cheeseburger instead of a nutritious meal, hit the snooze button and skip your early workout, or worse – have a long night and lose half of the next day. Basically, it resembles the “compounding” of good or bad choices that end up resulting in your failing or improving health, relationships and finances.
There couldn’t be a better book to read for my current situation than the Slight Edge. The reason why this concept is so treasured by me and all of Jeff’s readers is the simplicity of it all.
“Successful people do what unsuccessful people are not willing to do.”
The 95% majority of people that are struggling are motivated by quick results and instant gratification. The successful 5% are those who use the slight edge to take action with a vision of where they will be and a confidence that their consistent good decisions will make a difference.
So remember, every decision you make counts. Think twice before you decide to skip that seminar, neglect to call your friend who you haven’t talked to in a while, or get that extra drink.
You’re either on your way down or on your way up, I know I’m on my way up.