Monthly Archives: November 2014

Emerging From Hiding

My mood is a lot sunnier now than it was last week. I have to attribute that to the compounding of negative events that unfolded in the previous weeks. First, getting sick is a huge DOWNER. Second, finding oneself having to look for a new job again SUCKS! You put these together and you get pressure, helplessness, and anxiety.

Fortunately I did the right thing by trying to get as much done as possible through the computer applying for jobs and then reading a book directed at changing destructive thought patterns. I knew I had to change something inside of me because I tend to “coincidentally” get sick when there’s a big change happening.

It HAD to stop! I refuse to go through something as frustrating as that again. I want to be strong and equipped to rise up when adversity hits again. Many NY veterans have told me that I’ll probably get sick here more often than in California but I refuse! I won’t let it happen.

I know that my anger, denial and hesitance to move on (in regards to my job situation) eventually led to my diminished immunity and my nasty cold. Combining the physical disciplines of increasing sun exposure, movement, and interpersonal interaction with the mental disciplines of daily positive affirmations, reading and effective goal setting helped me to heal and lighten up my mood.

Phew! I’m glad to be out of the gloom. I’m actually happy it’s going to SNOW on Wednesday! I also have a few interviews tomorrow so things are starting to look up. I’ll give you an update afterwards.

Stay tuned..

-Nicole

Dealing With Seasonal Changes

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Wow I’m so new to this drop in sunlight and temperature! In the last couple of weeks I have been experiencing symptoms of Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). 

Seasonal Affective Disorder is the winter blues that usually occur in late autumn/early winter causing depression, irritability, unhappiness or low energy attributed to less sun exposure.

I am definitely feeling funkier than usual and I think the huge decrease in my outdoor activities is the culprit. The fact that I’ve been sick and not spending much time with people is another factor. It has come to my attention that I require lots of physical activity, sun exposure and regular interaction with people to feel happy.

I have to take a proactive approach to address this trend so I can be effective in my job search and to experience more joy. The truth is that EVERYTHING works out in our favor when we have a good attitude and project happiness onto people and our surroundings.

It’s tough to make get positive results if you’re not feeling very optimistic to begin with but, alas, that’s why you have to accept the feeling and then move on. You have to push through and “act the way you wanna feel.” I borrowed that last quote from the book I’ve been enjoying titled The Happiness Project by Getchen Rubin.

I chose to read The Happiness Project because Gretchen takes on a series of actionable steps to bring more satisfaction to all areas of her life: Vitality, Marriage, Work, Parenthood, Leisure, Friendship, Money, Spirituality, Knowledge, Mindfulness and Attitude. I appreciate the approach because it resembles cognitive behavioral therapy which, in my eyes, gets faster results than trying to change the way one thinks.

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Washington Square Park

As for now, I’m going to do a few things to feel better:

  1. Apply to jobs on Craigslist and Sittercity.com
  2. Reach out to friends here and from home to feel more connected
  3. Go for a walk when the sun’s out
  4. Find a yoga or dance class to attend when I’m able
  5. Download some music on my phone to make it more fun to work out in the gym
  6. Attend some art meetups when I’m able

I think that’s enough for now, stay warm!

-Nicole

 

 

Making The Right Kind Of Investments In Yourself

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I managed to buy a $500 ticket to the annual World Domination Summit for Summer 2015 just a few hours ago! For those of you who don’t know what WDS is, I’ll explain:

It is an annual gathering of interesting people (who are doing great things or destined for great things) from all over the world. It takes place in Portland, Oregon and thousands of people come for an immersive experience in life, work, and travel. The four-day event consists of main-stage events with keynote speakers, many of which have delivered TED Talks; workshops that focus on specific topics, and lots of meetups, parties, and informal engagement. It was founded by Chris Guillebeau, the author of The $100 Startup and The Happiness of Pursuit. The event’s slogan is “living a remarkable life in a conventional world.”

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WDS bings the world’s movers and shakers together

This was a good investment because I know the importance of environment and “putting the right people in your corner.”

Another way that I re-framed it was thinking about how much I could spend in less meaningful activities:

  1. $200 for a 3-day festival in which most attendees are partying and under the influence of (insert here)
  2. $200 for a 1-time Skydiving experience
  3. $500 for 1 week at Burning Man or a few days at Coachella where most people are also under the influence
  4. Or $500 for a weekend of irresponsible spending on “fun” which many young people in New York City are in danger of doing under specific circumstances

I’m in no way condemning the people who choose these activities, I’m saying that they aren’t necessarily good for networking or have a high return on investment. I am prepared to feel uncomfortable now so I can experience the rewards later.

I know it won’t happen until this coming July but I have already been working on surrounding myself physically and virtually with people who bring me up and encourage growth in NYC and through the Live Your Legend community. I even managed to arrange a mini-LYL meet-up in Manhattan. I met two lovely ambitious ladies who are just as determined as I am to make a dent in the world. We also provided important knowledge to each other about other do-good groups and people.

I have to thank Scott Dinsmore for bringing this yearly event, and many other “movers and shakers,” to my attention. If it weren’t for Live Your Legend’s online tools, articles, and group participation, I wouldn’t have known about Jonathan Fields, Simon Sinek, Blogging or Chris Guillebeau’s The Happiness of Pursuit.

I just realized that the author of the book I’ve been enjoying is also the founder and ringleader of the World Domination Summit! Things in my world are finally starting to connect and come full circle!

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It’s a great feeling when all the stuff one has gone through starts to make sense. For a while there I felt like I was running in-place. I wonder if others have felt similarly.

Moreover, Chris’ Happiness of Pursuit is about his quest to visit every country in the world before the age of 35 and about the many other “questers” he met along the way. Through his interviews with hundreds of ordinary people doing extraordinary things, he reveals how anyone can bring meaning into their life by undertaking a quest.

I’m very excited about what’s to come.

An Update On Last Week’s Goals

Fall-Inspired Self Portrait done with colored pencil

Fall-Inspired Self Portrait done with colored pencil

So last week I undertook the project of publicly sharing six ambitious tasks for me to accomplish between Thursday 10/23 and Saturday 11/01. This was an experiment to test the effectiveness of perceived accountability. I say “perceived” accountability because I have no idea how many people or if anyone is consistently keeping track of my blog and its progression. This is fine because its visibility is still public and that puts pressure on me to deliver.

Unfortunately I didn’t complete most of my “weekly big six” because I forgot to consider my mom’s visit to NYC! I am by no means blaming it on her, I am acknowledging the fact that I GROSSLY lacked perspective while planning. I also didn’t know that I was going to be so over-scheduled by my employer.

This is where I got with them:

  1. (Check) Start doing some form of cardio or strength exercise for at least 30 minutes 4-5 days a week
  2. (Check, more work needed) Seek out events and interest-focused groups to attend in Bushwick (probably through Meet-up)
  3. Seek out and attend some exercise or dance class in the area
  4. Buy more towels, a window curtain, trashcans (Check) and recruit my  mom as a decorator (In Progress)
  5. Reach out to at least 2 different resources each day for getting work in my field
  6. (Check and In Progress) Do some awesome things with my mom because she’s visiting and I’m SUPER EXCITED

Although I didn’t put this in my to-do list, I AM very happy with the art piece I created last week. Revisiting my identity as an artist will become the new theme of the year for me, especially now that I’m in New York. This has been unexpected, as art is the last thing on mind when I find myself stressed and I anticipated being highly stressed in New York. This new urge to get back to art has been an utterly pleasant surprise that I am welcoming with a huge embrace. What’s even better? The fact that winter is almost here and the weather is going to be more conducive to me staying in and contemplating an empty canvas.

I’ve also been getting urges to expand my understanding of art into the realm of technology. I know that I’m “young” and expected to really “get” the tech world and all its tricks but I have never been a fan of “screens.” It’s time, it’s time I accept that I can’t run away from these things anymore and I need to learn to conquer them and use them for my benefit in means of graphic design, photography, editing and whatever else I should learn.

Keep Creating!

-Nicole