Monthly Archives: September 2014

LYL Blog Challenge: What Do People Thank You For?

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Day 3 of blog challenge writing prompt: What do you people thank you for?

I would say that people thank me most for my enthusiasm, honesty, affection, integrity and fearlessness (I’m not really fearless). Many times it has come to a shock to me when people make it a point to say that I’m honest and actually listening to them. It makes me sad that this isn’t a more common thing happening in people’s interactions with each other. Of course I’m listening, otherwise, why would we take the time to be together? It’s the bare minimum.

Then, when it comes to honesty and integrity, I know no other way to be. It’s so natural to me to do what I think is right. If not, the guilt eats away at me. I guess my parents did something right, being cursed with a healthy conscience can’t be such a bad thing.

I have also been told that my “fearlessness” and go-getter attitude inspires people to act which pleases me because I’m not actually fearless. That’s just me pushing past my fear and doing what I must. I think the worst things that have happened in people’s lives is a result of fear and being ruled by it:

  • Destroyed relationships
  • Lost Opportunities
  • Boredom
  • Unwarranted aggression
  • Wars
  • Cruelty

I can go on and on about how fear flat out SUCKS! It’s okay to be scared, just don’t let it stop you. You have probably read over and over about my decision to move to NYC despite my uneasiness before and during the transition. It has been my best decision despite the “unsexy” moments of stomach aches, lightheadedness, overwhelm, loneliness, trepidation, tears and sweat.

-Nicole

 

Live Your Legend Blog Challenge

Just two days ago I signed up for the free Start-A-Blog Challenge with Scott Dinsmore from Live Your Legend. It comes with a free 7-day course to help build a successful writing habit and a private community of over 1,200 writers. You can access the free course and join the challenge here: http://liveyourlegend.net/start-a-blog-challenge-2015/. I strongly recommend that you take this challenge on whether you’ll share your ideas with the public or simply write them in secret. Either way, it is an extremely effective tool for exploring your passions and figuring out your world. Daily writing also inspires people to get out and live because it gives them more material to reflect on and write about. Face it, writing is something that everyone needs to be familiar with in this day and age. With practice you’ll become good at it and then you’ll have a huge leg up in life!

I skipped Day#1 of the blog challenge because I already started my blog  in July. So here I go with the 2nd one:

Day#2 of Blog Challenge: What makes you most angry about the world?

Alone Together

Alone Together

  • Apathy/Alienation
  • Silence
  • Complacency
  • Cruelty

Apathy upsets me because it is the cause of inaction in the presence of horror and it seems to be a big issue for the way many Americans react or don’t react to global affairs. Another thing that infuriates me is how people are letting technology alienate themselves from each other. From my viewpoint, it looks like people are becoming apathetic about the lives in front of them because they’re spending most of their time looking at their computer, ipad, or smart phone screens. Nothing breaks my heart more than when I see a couple in a nice restaurant ignoring each other or a group of friends consumed by their phones. Do yourself and everyone else a favor and be engaged or just go home.

Silence in the face of injustice is another thing that drives me up the wall. I have a strong belief that the worst thing to happen in the world is the “silence of good people.” Sure there are more compassionate and reasonable people than there are psychopaths but the few psychopaths that exist will not not be stopped if the “good” majority stands idly by. I always make it a point of mine to stand up for someone if it’s in my ability to help them, it is the best gift you can give a stranger.

Lately, I have been surrounding myself with people who are constantly challenging themselves and I feel SO much better. People who have embraced routine and complacency in theirs lives are boring to be around. I have to thank a few of my friends: Reyes, Spencer, Ola and the Live Your Legend community for sharing that similar view on the importance of enjoying life and lifelong learning.

And last but not least, cruelty is another thing that makes me angry enough to stay up at night. More than anything, it is the complete opposite of compassion which is supposed to be the natural disposition of humankind. It was actually a means to our survival as a species so it doesn’t make sense to me when our own kind continues to commit such heinous acts on humans or animals. This can relate to the recent beheadings committed by ISIS; the annual dolphin slaughter in Taiji, Japan; bear bile farming in Asia; rape, shark finning and the countless other horrible things that humans continue to do. If I have any supreme purpose on this Earth it is to take part in obliterating many of these.

What Makes You Most Angry About The World?

Feel free to share.

-Nicole

 

 

 

Growing Roots

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Hello! I just signed a year lease in this beautiful building in the artistic part of Bushwick (Brooklyn) where I’ll be no longer than a 30 min commute to work! I’m so happy because this is the most grounded I’ve felt since I moved here in August. My roots are beginning to take hold in NYC in terms of job, friends, and NOW – a new home. Things are finally starting to fall into place and make more sense. I’m hopeful that my to-be roommates will become good friends with me because they are both from out of town and keen on getting established in this neighborhood like myself. In the best case, we will grow and expand together.

This week was the ultimate test (in my standards) on my nerves at work since it was my first week off of training and I had to work six shifts in 4 days! That means I had to work some 12-hour days on my feet and running around like a mad woman trying to keep the customers and staff happy. On my day off, I spent the whole day searching for a permanent place to live and found what I was looking for. Nowadays I have been covering ground that I have never covered before. Just a few months ago I never imagined myself being able to handle working in a busy, high caliber New York City restaurant or moving to such a cut-throat city full of ambitious and qualified people. I simply believed I didn’t have the energy, stamina, memory or stress-management ability to do the job. I also read that most restaurants won’t even hire people without NYC work experience. And here I am proving all these beliefs wrong, and it feels great (I’m starting to feel like my old, tough, determined self again). Working in the service industry is an excellent way to get a foothold in a new city.

-Nicole

 

 

Embrace the Struggle

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Phew! It’s been a rough last couple of days. I’ve been fighting a cold and sore throat for over a week (while proving myself at work), riding emotional roller coasters and have just gotten out of the relationship that inspired me to move to the other side of the country. Although it can be quite terrifying, I am not discouraged. With every bump in the road and unsettling thought that I experience, I feel myself building a tougher skin. This is good because I wanted to build it before but couldn’t in the unchallenging place I used to live in. I even tried to prepare myself through taking courses and reading helpful books..nothing replaces THE REAL THING.

There is a good thing that came out of me living and working in an unfulfilling place-reading and learning A LOT so I can apply it now when all my wits are being put to the test. Here is a great quote that I took from Oprah’s inspiring interview at Standford (here’s the link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6DlrqeWrczs).

“There are NO mistakes, there really aren’t any. Because you have a supreme destiny. When you’re in your little mind, in your little personality mind where you’re not centered and you don’t really know who you are and that you come from something bigger and we are all the same..when you don’t know that, you get all flustered and stressed all the time wanting something to be what it isn’t. There’s a supreme moment and destiny. The losses are there to wake you up. Your life is bigger than any sole experience. RELAX, it really is gonna be okay. When you get steered off course and overwhelmed just ask yourself “what is the NEXT right move?” Everything is leading to your destiny and calling”

-Oprah Winfrey

I know it was long but wasn’t it great!? I read that anytime I find myself regretting my big and little decisions (such as moving here). I must part from writing as I need to continue my apartment search and prepare for my long workday tomorrow. Farewell for now.

Stay tuned..

-Nicole

Need An Update?

Victory! Posing  at Central Park

Victory! Posing at Central Park

1) Sublet “Check”

2) Job “Check!”

3) Permanent place “In Progress”

HOORAY! I got a job last week after only a few days of aggressively looking for them. Since I moved to Sheepshead Bay on September 3rd I spent a big chunk of time on preparation rather than action. This includes research on what I wanted and hundreds of edits to my resume. I suppose that’s okay because it relates to the old saying:

“It’s better to take your time and aim at what you want than to shoot in every direction.”

So I got a job as a server at this “Eclectic Mediterranean” Restaurant in Tribeca last week where I totally clicked with the staff, the space, and the food. It might sound “average” to certain people but this is the first time I’ve felt happy at a job for a long time, since I can remember. I mean, these people know how to work hard and have a blast with eachother. Who can say they had an “Office Space Moment” during the monthly team meeting where everyone helped destroy the stubborn office printer!? Ya that happened this Saturday. Anyway, now that I have a source of income I can focus on the search for a place closer to town AND work!

I’m going to officially start my search tomorrow and my place will preferably be in Manhattan so I don’t have to put in so much commute time. Although Sheepshead Bay was a beautiful and good place to start, the one-hour commute to The City each way is painful..and can I mention-unreliable? It must be a coincidence but the Q train I take has been held up 3 times already in the past week! I have to be honest and say that I’m not adjusted to this new dependence on public transportation. In fact, it still deeply frustrates me.

“But whatcha gonna do? Learn and learn some more”

-Nicole

Catching up

Swans in Sheepshead Bay

Swans in Sheepshead Bay

I’m back! I’m guessing you’re wondering what happened to me and the place I was supposed to have set up before my surprise trip to New Orleans.. Long story short, I missed my last chance to snag an option that was relatively cheap AND close to Manhattan and had to rely on my backup sublet which turned out to be the best option I had!

Let me explain: lightening-quick decision making is rewarded here in New York, there’s just too many other people scrambling for the same things and probably expecting less than you are. I was amazed by how quick people were to throw money down. Even after being the 1st pick to see the place in Sunset Park, the 15 minutes I took to “think about it” resulted in me losing the place to someone who had literally come in five minutes after me and offered the cash! This appeared to be a loss but ended up being a blessing since this alternate place turned out to be beautiful and the people I’m sharing the space with are lovely. I acquired this option through my boyfriend’s college friend who lives in Sheepshead Bay.

Just yesterday afternoon I managed to drag all my suitcases down 4 excruciating flights of stairs to a cab (with help from friendly New Yorkers of course) from East Village to the southernmost part of Brooklyn. I received a warm welcome by Roxy and her family who all turned out to be friendly creative types. After conversing with them for a while I went to explore the bay where I witnessed the prettiest sky I have seen since I left California. These were all good signs for what’s to come, I am certain of it.

1) Sublet “Check”

2) Job “In progress”

3) Permanent place “On hold”

Alright not too bad, 1 out of 3 major tasks completed. I’m putting the pedal to medal now because I’m determined to get my life stabilized. Onward and up!

-Nicole